Being brave or coward?

What is more important really?

Being brave or being a coward?

Being brave you will stand up against problems; like a super hero. A biggest challenge for most super hero we see is having a girlfriend. Why? Because after the evil they face every day, themselves are not even sure if they will be coming back home alive at the end of the day. Being brave can cost life. If not life at least comfort and peace of yours and others around you who are your loved ones.

Being a coward you keep up a low profile. You live with your head down no matter where you come and go. You do not have to worry about standing up against what’s wrong. You barely even have to think what is wrong and right.

Life is full of dilemma. What if spider-man realizes, what MJ goes through every day worrying about him? What if Super-man ends up peeping inside Lois Lane’s head and discovers the terror she goes through every time she has to see him fighting with attacking monsters and surviving around Kryptonite? Is that realization really worth of being brave and saving the world?

This is the thought I recently had. The deeper I tried thinking about it the more confused I felt. Think of taking some big risks for the better of the world or think of doing something you think is right ethically; and now think of the consequences you have to deal with. Now, put yourself in the shoes of your loved ones. see the whole situation through their eyes and ask yourself, “Is it worth putting them through it?” How does it feel to realize how seriously they worry about you when you are doing something that you think is “right” or as an act of bravery?

Now, get back in your shoes and think what is more worth, Being brave or being a coward and “Just deal with it”.

Life is something!  isn’t it?

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Put family first

About 1500 school kids in America were asked in 2011, “what is it that makes a happy family?” Out of 1500 kids there was not a single one who said, “Money”. Instead most of them said “Warm Love”.

It was that easy to figure out for an innocent kid. Then why does it take us so long to figure it out?

I have seen people working really hard. They spend day and night after work. Almost like they are not working to live, they are living to work. But when you ask them why so much work you do? Mostly the answer is, “so that I can keep my family happy; I can buy stuff for my wife and kids; send my kids to better University.” or in some cases you hear that, “I want to buy a house or a store or a factory. Then I can keep my family happier. If I do not work hard where I will get the money from?”

Both examples above are real surveys that has been done in 2011.

Now, compare the answers that kids gave and what adults gave. Are kids asking for things or money? All they are asking for is “Warm Love”. Why adults/parents are working hard? So, that they can get more money and give their kids better future.

Now, ask yourself what is more important to you? Building a character of your son or daughter OR Having enough money to be able to send them to Yale; buy them expensive gifts on Christmas. Sure, they would love it. Even at the age of 27 I would also love to have someone giving me a hot-wheels car on Christmas.

The real question is, “what is more important ?” Gathering enough money or being there with the kids to have them feel that you are there. It is very important to spend time with your family.

I had stressed on the example of kids; because once again I have no hesitation repeating that “Kids are the future responsible citizens of this country”. As responsible citizens they will be holding the key to the future. I have mentioned this in 2 or 3 of my blogs before. I will not stop stressing on this same issue that the world is challenged with.

Besides the example of kids the above theory applies to anyone and every one in the family. You have to be sure that every one feels loved the way they deserve to, for whatever role they are playing in your family. Each member is important.

  • If it was not for your father or mother “YOU” will not be here. That “YOU-ness” that you are always so cocky about wouldn’t even exist today, if it was not for your parents. When you were scared as a kid it was them who hold you in their arms and said, “You are safe here with me”.
  • It was the woman you are married to who once said “YES” to you while you were on your knees feeling helpless because if this is not it you are doomed.
  • It was the man of your house that once comforted you in his arms saying, “I am here, I will make sure everything is going to be okay”.

Please value your family. I planned to publish this article especially on Friday so that all of you reading this can realize if you had been lacking in your efforts to put in your family and have the weekend to improvise. Get the family united.

Some monks especially insist on “family time” once or twice a week. Get everyone together; play a board game; do a movie night; have a talk to address everyone facing the problem in the house and find answers together that works for every one’s best.

Put Family First. Starting from now – this very moment!!! Have a lovely weekend.

 

Don’t Give up NOW!!! (To keep blogging)

I read this somewhere (how clumsy of me neither to remember who said it, nor able to find it now),

“Success comes to those who keep on going from the point where others stopped.”

Today’s blog is dedicated to all the bloggers on WordPress. Especially those who crave a good traffic and yet regardless manage to do a good job. Following is inspired from self-realization of going over 1000 hits on my page this weekend. This is specially dedicated to the new bloggers or surviving bloggers.

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I have not been blogging for too long myself, but what I have noticed a lot is bloggers coming and going in a day or two. Then I have also noticed bloggers who are consistently writing something; something good. Then there are those bloggers who write something and get famous, moving on they get lost in the crowd of “expert bloggers”. Some of those had time once to check your work and follow you but then you never heard from them again because they became too famous and busy, talking to more famous bloggers than you. We can be that too someday, no stopping to it, if you look for growth.

Within 2 months of blogging and having to notice all that is kind of scary.

The quote I mentioned on the top is for bloggers who are doing average. I was one of them. Uh I mean I am one of them or may be not even that good yet. But hey, pardon me if I do feel great already.

When you are blogging you have to concentrate on your own blog. Forget about bringing traffic and attention. Forget about how many people stop by. Stop thinking about topics you rather should write about that people want to read. Because that is when your blog will not stay yours anymore.

Few days back I found out about “bloggers awards” there are like 3 or 4 different types or something like that; never paid much attention. (I rather try remembering who said that awesome quote on the top).

One of the award-winning blogger published an article about “how to achieve those awards”. First thing that blogger said was that blog had been up since 2002. He/She got an award in 2008, so this is what I want to bring your attention to. 6 years of work and patience it took there to win an award (that is if you are planning to achieve one).

Another disturbing truth I found in that article is that blogger started writing about Erotic/Sexual topics that got him/her lots of attention. (No offense to those who are writing on same topic as long as that is exactly what you want). Now, we all know that will bring you attention too if you may write about that topic, because the world seem to love reading about it. But, the point here is the moment you start concentrating on topics to get traffic to your blog will not stay yours anymore.

So, stay where you are. Keep writing/blogging for fun. Because as far as my experience of blogging goes (2 good months), I think I got away meeting very thoughtful people who never know may turn into good friends someday.

Because I choose to write about feel good/inspirational topics, I found a few more who choose to write the same. The way I see it, there is a bunch of superheroes trying to make the world a better place reaching as many readers they can per day. Trying to cheer them up; make them feel positive; make them laugh; keep them going with the daily battles at work or home; help increasing family values. That is all it takes to be a super hero right?

So for super heroes like us and Speedy Sparks (I know you saw that coming), keep doing what you are good at. Don’t be bothered with the traffic.

Having your own thought as a blog; read by 1 person who need it the most will count much more than writing a blog that 1000 people like to read it.

Don’t give up, Keep on going. Write what makes you feel good. Happy blogging.

My Magical Rock

(The following does not have to hit you as hard it hit me because I believed. If you believe you would love what you are going to read. If you do not believe I hope something would happen to you soon that will make you believe.)

The title is pretty clear to explain that I have a magical rock. I mean I really do. It was not a metaphor to some philosophy or life lesson. Here is a story for you.

Long ago – almost a year ago; I watched that video (documentary) they made from the book “the secret”. It was impressive at some points. In that there was a story of a man who had this little rock that he called “a gratitude rock”. What he used to do is now and then he would hold that stone in his hands and say things he is very thankful for. Nothing to do with the stone here, it’s just some idea he came up with. He would even carry the stone to make sure at least once or twice a day he does this “thank you for this and that” routine. 

Once when his friend’s son was sick, he sent this rock to him. They put the rock under this kids pillow or something (as I vaguely remember) and in few days the kid was cured; while good medicines did not seem to work for him. The point is this positive energy of being thankful was transformed into that rock over a period.

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Now, that story impressed me. I have no friend with a sick kid or no such mission to carry out, but the idea sounded perfect. The idea of having something that reminds you to be thankful to things and people you have around now and then. And so I started looking for my rock. My only purpose to have a rock that time was to start being thankful and appreciate more in my life.

When I started looking for this rock, I was determined to find something outstanding; something with a style and attitude of its own. It was almost like picking a star cast for a movie that has a potential to win Oscar. Then I started looking for that rock every where I go. On the streets when I am walking; in the park literally searching for it; hiking near the lake, I tried all I could. It was over a week to 10 days I seemed to find no rock that caught my eye or spoke to me.

One morning when I was at work – in the kitchen I had to put away a huge food-order delivery for a busy week. Doing my job like a normal day. Emptying boxes of produce one after another. Potatoes; tomatoes; eggplant, it actually was getting tiring. Then came the box of green beans. As soon as I turned over the box of green beans into a plastic crate there it appeared. The rock that I was looking for past 2 weeks. I wanted a little rock that was impressive with its style; that had an attitude; the one that will speak to me and make me pick it up. I was looking for it out in the streets and in the park but none of those million rocks spoke to me. And here, this one little rock came travelling to me all the way from “I don’t know where”.

 The one here and above is the picture of that rock I found. I found it had style and attitude. Why? Because it came looking for me all the way inside my work place kitchen, where even a fly cannot get in. Barely there is a bunch of cilantro with a little sand in it once in a while. Having this huge rock was just the most surprising thing I ever imagined in a produce order. And so I believed that very instant. I believed that’s gotta be it and so I kept it.

It was one of those happy days in my life. It felt great within to experience something amazing like this. They always said, “Look harder; try harder and you shall get it.” Well, I did look and try hard to find that rock and I think I tried a bit too hard and made this rock travel to me.

Later I kept it with me along with my other “holy” stuff (I’m a bit of religious guy). Reason keeping it with my chanting beads and other little talismans is because I do sit down to pray almost everyday. I tried carrying it with me but was scared it may scratch of the screen on my phone etc. was not a good idea to carry it everywhere. Ever since that day, when I sit down to pray; I hold this rock in my fist and think of all the people and things I am thankful for that includes, “My job (like it or not I am thankful for having one); my family (each with a different gift); my friends (each having little secret of mine to keep); my laptop; my phone…pretty much everything I love or use a lot and can think of at that time.

It really helps. Not by feeding positive energy and life into that rock, but by reminding myself of what surround me and how incomplete or unhappy I may have been if it was not for those things and people in my life. It really helps to realize everyday or now and then, that how good it feels to be thankful.

Hope you all have a good start to your week. In case you missed yesterday’s cartoon “blogs this week”. Check it out. It will give you an idea of what else is coming up this week.

Thank you for reading. Have a great Monday (who am I kidding? We all know Mondays are bad and lazy).

Music and Lyrics – explicit much?

Aah the lyrics in some of the songs these days just drive me crazy. Not because they do not make sense, but because they sound a bit too vulgar to be honest.

Following and above is going to be just my opinion. I do not mean to offend anyone. If you agree you would like what you read, simple as that.

I am a person who chooses to listen to music with good lyrics. When I say good I am talking about lyrics that makes sense. Lyrics that passes a good message. Hope I am not alone to notice this but songs releasing in past few months had spread only a message to get drunk, get high, smoke a joint and other R rated activities that they just have to promote.

What I do not understand is same music plays in most of all the clubs on a Friday or Saturday night, where the singers just abuse women; picture them as some material and then that same club is full of girls who are dancing to those beats and words. News flash we now also have female singers loving to abuse themselves or portraying herself somewhat disgusting yet making it sound “Cool”. What does not make sense to me is the part why would someone want to take abuse as a celebration or fun? Question in my head is why this generation has to make such a vulnerable choice?

Are we losing respect to ourselves as a person? Are we loving the part when we get abused?

There are rappers mostly who materialize woman and then again there are rappers like 2pac who said words like, “Since we all came from a woman, got our name from a woman, and our game from a woman. I wonder why we take from women, why we rape our women, do we hate our women? I think it’s time we killed for our women, be real to our women, try to heal our women, cause if we don’t we’ll have a race of babies that will hate the ladies, who make the babies. And since a man can’t make one he has no right to tell a woman when and where to create one.”

I have noticed myself changing my choice of music after few months in past 4 years. In that 4 years I have experienced different effects of the songs I listen to. That was the only reason I had to write this blog.

I ask you all to make a good choice of what you listen to. Because you may not experience this directly, but indirectly what you listen and what you see effects your behavior in everyday life a lot.

I ask you to listen to something positive and look at the positive things in your life. The more we surround us with negative or aggressive material, the more wilder animal we will become.  So, unless you choose to be a wild animal make sure you guard your eyes and ears and only let the good things get in.

I mentioned it before and again I mention it here, that above is my opinion. You do not have to agree with it. If you agree or disagree I would like to know why and how. Because above I said it is my opinion, I did not say I am right. So, please help me understand this if my opinion is wrong.

Thank you for reading.

Owner of the Emerald – story and a lesson

Here is a short true story with a few facts changed. It was published once in Time magazine. It’s a story of an Emerald stone.

There was a doctor who owned Emerald. He never had clue what it was. For him it was only a decorative stone he found somewhere once. After all he started using that stone as a paper weight in his office.

Gachala Emerald

One day a man walks into his office for some business who happened to have a lot of knowledge and value for jewellery and stones. He saw this Emerald sitting on the desk, which should actually belong all the way back hidden in some sort of safe. He instantly offered the doctor if he can buy the stone and settled a deal for a million dollars (trying not to be very unfair). The doctor was surprised and actually happy to struck such a deal that day.

After a month that man sold the Emerald for over 11 million dollars. That money could have been made by the doctor, but it didn’t work for him. Why? Only because he did not have any value for what he owned.

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Us and that doctor are so much alike. Often we do not understand the value of the character or talents that we possess and inspite of being owner of such valuable treasures we try to find happiness outside in materialistic pleasure. It is us who do not spend time and efforts to search the inside of ourselves to discover what potential we may have.

Arabs were poor before they figured out that there is a big load of treasure right under their feet – the oil. Once they found it look how rich they are now.

Same is this cartoon here, Speedy thinking he lost the map to get to the mountain while its right there sticking on his shell where he can’t see.

All of us are filled with such treasures. Think hard, try harder to look inside what good qualities you are filled with and use them for your benefit.

That’s the beauty of life – We spend whole life looking for something which is often found right under our feet. 

Have a good day. Thank you for reading.

Chameleon Theory

A chameleon has an ability to change its color and blend into the surrounding. Human body does not have that ability of course. But, what we do have is our will that we have a control over.

Chameleon theory talks about being adjustable to your surrounding. The reason I called it Chameleon theory is because this characteristic is found in that certain reptile. It changes its color to fit in(mostly for protection). Take a pause and think how powerful and witty nature can get. Every creature gifted with different abilities. Simply amazing.

What we can learn from chameleon theory is to blend in to the surrounding no matter where we are. What makes us sad is not having things our way around us. But only if we try to accommodate to our surrounding by changing ourselves a little there is no room for sadness or disappointment left.

Look at Speedy Sparks here, blending into the surrounding. If you are familiar to Speedy Sparks (my blog mascot) looking at previous articles n drawings; you will find him here in this picture on a race track with his greenish red spotted shell with racing stripes (that’s just his birth marks).

(okay fine, its not the greatest or perfect example but it was a funny idea I had so here it is another cartoon of the day…ha ha…).

Easy enough to figure it out now that it is mostly us who attract and cause most of our disappointments. Only if we learn to adjust and be happy in the moment; into the place we are at, there is no way we can be unhappy.

Lesson learned from a chameleon without using any mean of communication and just by observation. Open your eyes and understand the values of what surrounds us, something on these lines is my tomorrows article about – owner of the emerald.

Have a great Monday and remember to practice “adjusting” today. Try it for a day and see if it works for you.

Lessons in Movies – 1 (running after your passion – spoiler alert)

So this is only the first article under the topic of “Lessons in Movies” and there are going to be a few more.

These articles may contain “Spoiler Alert“, although I will do my best to keep the secret the way it should be – interesting and for you to find out.

Today’s movie pick (as I mentioned in yesterday’s blog is “The Big Year“).

Currently I am writing an e-book and there is a chapter in that book about “getting in touch with nature”. I must admit I found the most amazing way in this movie – The big year, to get in touch with nature. It is about birding.

Speedy Sparks birding on a day off

The story is about few passionate birders (people who like spotting different species of birds). These birders don’t describe birding as a hobby but they define it as a passion. That will remind you that every one of us has different passion. I am sure you are passionate about something in particular.

Now, there are three main characters played in this movie by “Steve Martin, Jack Black and Owen Wilson“. There is a birder with a world record and he is trying to break his own record this year (in the story). There are other 2 main characters who are his competition. All three of them carries same passion for birding.

But they all are making different sacrifices and they all are prioritizing different things in their lives. That reminds me of some of us, who may put Passion first in life while others will make sure their passion do not cause any damage in other part of life. That is the lesson in this movie.

You will see a journey of these 3 competitors across america and other parts of the world just for spotting a bird. But these characters have different situations in their life and different challenges. This movie will teach you exactly by the end that how your passion can effect positively or negatively to your life.

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You see we all grow up doing different things; making different choices; loving something more than the other in our lives. But, at the end what matters is “your inner happiness and satisfaction” with the choices you made. 

This realization was the best moment in the movie. I must say you gotta watch it. Sometimes, not only the journey counts but it is also the ending or what some of us call the destination. Same quote I put down in the beginning of a chapter in my fictional book (as much as I love bragging about it, I confess I have hit a huge block in that fictional story which I haven’t managed to overcome in past month now. So, for now only moving on with my e-book. Thank God at least something is going on).

So, watch this movie and see if you find it interesting. I watched it just because the cast and crew sounded very interesting to me and at the end of the movie I felt I got away with more than just the entertainment.

You can make a difference even at -273C

Hey, so here is an interesting image I created to explain what would Speedy Sparks feel in different temperatures. He is just super awesome, so just flow with me and see where I am going with this okay.

Now, above you see is how well Speedy Sparks will survive in different temperature zones. He is doing fine even at 2C. He would be freezing to almost inactive at -100C and at -273C even he is nothing.

-273C = 0 K. Yes it is zero Kelvin temperature. Lord William Thomas Kelvin came up with this unit of measure in 1848. Don’t get bored yet, it gets better. Past 2 days I had been busy doing research on the internet; trying to find out all I can about absolute zero condition explained by Lord Kelvin. He came up with Kelvin as a measuring unit of temperature to measure extreme heat or cold.

Now, my question to you is if at 0 K that is -273C nothing can exist (even different gases in the air freezes by -222C), do you think Lord Kelvin went there personally to measure it and prove it. No, absolutely not. But, everyone believes his calculations; his experiments and world wide in the field of Science this Kelvin measure is used.

What I want you now to do is ask yourself a question, can you make any difference in the world? Well, Lord Kelvin came up with a revolutionary helpful measuring unit of temperature, why can’t we do something small or something new? Verbally, he made a difference at -273C; don’t you think we can do much better at a room temperature we are mostly surrounded with?

The beauty of this is he did lots of other things but there are million of other things that he did not invent. It was always a different person behind different inventions. I am not asking you to invent some materialistic thing to help mankind. All I am asking you is to believe in what I am saying and most of all believe in yourself that you can make a little difference around you and make this world a better place if you think a little extra. Just come up with some positive thought and pass it on, that would be a greatest invention we can use these days.

That’s all man, its that simple.

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Hope you enjoyed reading this and hope I made some sense. I was trying to keep my thoughts as clear as possible in order to explain what I want to say. Hope I could get it to you. Tomorrow gets better. I watched this movie called “the big year” last night starring – Steve Martin, Jack Black and Owen Wilson. Will talk about that movie here tomorrow. Just in case if it interests you and possible for you please watch that movie once today if you can.

Thank you for your precious time. I have a feeling I will be able to be lot more creative with the help of Speedy Sparks.

Cheers.