Lessons in Movies – Runaway Bride

Runaway BrideJulia Roberts; Richard Gere, you remember that movie right? Good entertainment. There was a part in that movie (many of you have already discussed this over and over with people; in that case I am sorry to bring it up again) that really impressed me. I mean, I was actually flattered how thoughtful of that person who came up with the idea of that “egg theory” or that is what I like to call.

Egg theory - working out a bit too much with Speedy.

Maggie Carpenter (played by Julia Roberts) does not know how she likes her eggs (in above cartoon Speedy knows what he wants but apparently the server is a movie watcher like me who gets a bit too much influenced by the movie). But more important thing to notice, she orders her eggs just the way the guy she is with likes it. If you were the guy Maggie was dating and if you like “sunny side up” that is what she would order. (Spoiler Alert ahead)

Interesting part is at the end when she tries all kind of eggs and comes back to Ike (played by Richard Gere) and says, “I like, Eggs Benedict, I hate all other kinds of eggs”. The moment of realization.

Now, the lesson I see here through my eyes and the way my brains function is that a lot of us; perhaps all of us go through that same phase some time in our life.

We do not know ourselves. We may not spend any time in discovering ourselves at all. May be it is because we get highly influenced or sort of dominated by the other person around. It is all about self discovery. Whether you are at work or in a relationship or hanging out too much with certain someone; it is very obvious that you end up having some influence of that person. That is where we need to hold on to being ourselves. Try that today. Notice people around you and try thinking of the ways they move or talk or do other things and try to remember what really impresses you so much that makes you want to adopt it. There are chances you will realize that you already have adopted those things. Try to figure out is it worth keeping or not. Try more of discovering yourself. Try finding the real you instead of being dragged along with someone.

I have noticed people getting out of a relationship of a few years and feeling little lost to understand what they want and end up with someone who is totally not worth again. That happens because when you were with someone for so long you have changed. Everybody changes. There is nothing wrong in that. Just take your time to figure out again who you are, define yourself again. Do some self discovery about those changes and then move on. Always remember, 2 words “self discovery”- very important alright?

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Earlier I wrote a blog asking to notice people around you and adopt one good thing from them, to be super awesome all together carrying everybody’s 1 good thing in you. That is so not related here. It sounds confusing and mixed up but whole other story, okay.

Have a lovely day, thank you for reading 🙂

 

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Put family first

About 1500 school kids in America were asked in 2011, “what is it that makes a happy family?” Out of 1500 kids there was not a single one who said, “Money”. Instead most of them said “Warm Love”.

It was that easy to figure out for an innocent kid. Then why does it take us so long to figure it out?

I have seen people working really hard. They spend day and night after work. Almost like they are not working to live, they are living to work. But when you ask them why so much work you do? Mostly the answer is, “so that I can keep my family happy; I can buy stuff for my wife and kids; send my kids to better University.” or in some cases you hear that, “I want to buy a house or a store or a factory. Then I can keep my family happier. If I do not work hard where I will get the money from?”

Both examples above are real surveys that has been done in 2011.

Now, compare the answers that kids gave and what adults gave. Are kids asking for things or money? All they are asking for is “Warm Love”. Why adults/parents are working hard? So, that they can get more money and give their kids better future.

Now, ask yourself what is more important to you? Building a character of your son or daughter OR Having enough money to be able to send them to Yale; buy them expensive gifts on Christmas. Sure, they would love it. Even at the age of 27 I would also love to have someone giving me a hot-wheels car on Christmas.

The real question is, “what is more important ?” Gathering enough money or being there with the kids to have them feel that you are there. It is very important to spend time with your family.

I had stressed on the example of kids; because once again I have no hesitation repeating that “Kids are the future responsible citizens of this country”. As responsible citizens they will be holding the key to the future. I have mentioned this in 2 or 3 of my blogs before. I will not stop stressing on this same issue that the world is challenged with.

Besides the example of kids the above theory applies to anyone and every one in the family. You have to be sure that every one feels loved the way they deserve to, for whatever role they are playing in your family. Each member is important.

  • If it was not for your father or mother “YOU” will not be here. That “YOU-ness” that you are always so cocky about wouldn’t even exist today, if it was not for your parents. When you were scared as a kid it was them who hold you in their arms and said, “You are safe here with me”.
  • It was the woman you are married to who once said “YES” to you while you were on your knees feeling helpless because if this is not it you are doomed.
  • It was the man of your house that once comforted you in his arms saying, “I am here, I will make sure everything is going to be okay”.

Please value your family. I planned to publish this article especially on Friday so that all of you reading this can realize if you had been lacking in your efforts to put in your family and have the weekend to improvise. Get the family united.

Some monks especially insist on “family time” once or twice a week. Get everyone together; play a board game; do a movie night; have a talk to address everyone facing the problem in the house and find answers together that works for every one’s best.

Put Family First. Starting from now – this very moment!!! Have a lovely weekend.

 

Don’t Give up NOW!!! (To keep blogging)

I read this somewhere (how clumsy of me neither to remember who said it, nor able to find it now),

“Success comes to those who keep on going from the point where others stopped.”

Today’s blog is dedicated to all the bloggers on WordPress. Especially those who crave a good traffic and yet regardless manage to do a good job. Following is inspired from self-realization of going over 1000 hits on my page this weekend. This is specially dedicated to the new bloggers or surviving bloggers.

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I have not been blogging for too long myself, but what I have noticed a lot is bloggers coming and going in a day or two. Then I have also noticed bloggers who are consistently writing something; something good. Then there are those bloggers who write something and get famous, moving on they get lost in the crowd of “expert bloggers”. Some of those had time once to check your work and follow you but then you never heard from them again because they became too famous and busy, talking to more famous bloggers than you. We can be that too someday, no stopping to it, if you look for growth.

Within 2 months of blogging and having to notice all that is kind of scary.

The quote I mentioned on the top is for bloggers who are doing average. I was one of them. Uh I mean I am one of them or may be not even that good yet. But hey, pardon me if I do feel great already.

When you are blogging you have to concentrate on your own blog. Forget about bringing traffic and attention. Forget about how many people stop by. Stop thinking about topics you rather should write about that people want to read. Because that is when your blog will not stay yours anymore.

Few days back I found out about “bloggers awards” there are like 3 or 4 different types or something like that; never paid much attention. (I rather try remembering who said that awesome quote on the top).

One of the award-winning blogger published an article about “how to achieve those awards”. First thing that blogger said was that blog had been up since 2002. He/She got an award in 2008, so this is what I want to bring your attention to. 6 years of work and patience it took there to win an award (that is if you are planning to achieve one).

Another disturbing truth I found in that article is that blogger started writing about Erotic/Sexual topics that got him/her lots of attention. (No offense to those who are writing on same topic as long as that is exactly what you want). Now, we all know that will bring you attention too if you may write about that topic, because the world seem to love reading about it. But, the point here is the moment you start concentrating on topics to get traffic to your blog will not stay yours anymore.

So, stay where you are. Keep writing/blogging for fun. Because as far as my experience of blogging goes (2 good months), I think I got away meeting very thoughtful people who never know may turn into good friends someday.

Because I choose to write about feel good/inspirational topics, I found a few more who choose to write the same. The way I see it, there is a bunch of superheroes trying to make the world a better place reaching as many readers they can per day. Trying to cheer them up; make them feel positive; make them laugh; keep them going with the daily battles at work or home; help increasing family values. That is all it takes to be a super hero right?

So for super heroes like us and Speedy Sparks (I know you saw that coming), keep doing what you are good at. Don’t be bothered with the traffic.

Having your own thought as a blog; read by 1 person who need it the most will count much more than writing a blog that 1000 people like to read it.

Don’t give up, Keep on going. Write what makes you feel good. Happy blogging.

My Magical Rock

(The following does not have to hit you as hard it hit me because I believed. If you believe you would love what you are going to read. If you do not believe I hope something would happen to you soon that will make you believe.)

The title is pretty clear to explain that I have a magical rock. I mean I really do. It was not a metaphor to some philosophy or life lesson. Here is a story for you.

Long ago – almost a year ago; I watched that video (documentary) they made from the book “the secret”. It was impressive at some points. In that there was a story of a man who had this little rock that he called “a gratitude rock”. What he used to do is now and then he would hold that stone in his hands and say things he is very thankful for. Nothing to do with the stone here, it’s just some idea he came up with. He would even carry the stone to make sure at least once or twice a day he does this “thank you for this and that” routine. 

Once when his friend’s son was sick, he sent this rock to him. They put the rock under this kids pillow or something (as I vaguely remember) and in few days the kid was cured; while good medicines did not seem to work for him. The point is this positive energy of being thankful was transformed into that rock over a period.

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Now, that story impressed me. I have no friend with a sick kid or no such mission to carry out, but the idea sounded perfect. The idea of having something that reminds you to be thankful to things and people you have around now and then. And so I started looking for my rock. My only purpose to have a rock that time was to start being thankful and appreciate more in my life.

When I started looking for this rock, I was determined to find something outstanding; something with a style and attitude of its own. It was almost like picking a star cast for a movie that has a potential to win Oscar. Then I started looking for that rock every where I go. On the streets when I am walking; in the park literally searching for it; hiking near the lake, I tried all I could. It was over a week to 10 days I seemed to find no rock that caught my eye or spoke to me.

One morning when I was at work – in the kitchen I had to put away a huge food-order delivery for a busy week. Doing my job like a normal day. Emptying boxes of produce one after another. Potatoes; tomatoes; eggplant, it actually was getting tiring. Then came the box of green beans. As soon as I turned over the box of green beans into a plastic crate there it appeared. The rock that I was looking for past 2 weeks. I wanted a little rock that was impressive with its style; that had an attitude; the one that will speak to me and make me pick it up. I was looking for it out in the streets and in the park but none of those million rocks spoke to me. And here, this one little rock came travelling to me all the way from “I don’t know where”.

 The one here and above is the picture of that rock I found. I found it had style and attitude. Why? Because it came looking for me all the way inside my work place kitchen, where even a fly cannot get in. Barely there is a bunch of cilantro with a little sand in it once in a while. Having this huge rock was just the most surprising thing I ever imagined in a produce order. And so I believed that very instant. I believed that’s gotta be it and so I kept it.

It was one of those happy days in my life. It felt great within to experience something amazing like this. They always said, “Look harder; try harder and you shall get it.” Well, I did look and try hard to find that rock and I think I tried a bit too hard and made this rock travel to me.

Later I kept it with me along with my other “holy” stuff (I’m a bit of religious guy). Reason keeping it with my chanting beads and other little talismans is because I do sit down to pray almost everyday. I tried carrying it with me but was scared it may scratch of the screen on my phone etc. was not a good idea to carry it everywhere. Ever since that day, when I sit down to pray; I hold this rock in my fist and think of all the people and things I am thankful for that includes, “My job (like it or not I am thankful for having one); my family (each with a different gift); my friends (each having little secret of mine to keep); my laptop; my phone…pretty much everything I love or use a lot and can think of at that time.

It really helps. Not by feeding positive energy and life into that rock, but by reminding myself of what surround me and how incomplete or unhappy I may have been if it was not for those things and people in my life. It really helps to realize everyday or now and then, that how good it feels to be thankful.

Hope you all have a good start to your week. In case you missed yesterday’s cartoon “blogs this week”. Check it out. It will give you an idea of what else is coming up this week.

Thank you for reading. Have a great Monday (who am I kidding? We all know Mondays are bad and lazy).

Owner of the Emerald – story and a lesson

Here is a short true story with a few facts changed. It was published once in Time magazine. It’s a story of an Emerald stone.

There was a doctor who owned Emerald. He never had clue what it was. For him it was only a decorative stone he found somewhere once. After all he started using that stone as a paper weight in his office.

Gachala Emerald

One day a man walks into his office for some business who happened to have a lot of knowledge and value for jewellery and stones. He saw this Emerald sitting on the desk, which should actually belong all the way back hidden in some sort of safe. He instantly offered the doctor if he can buy the stone and settled a deal for a million dollars (trying not to be very unfair). The doctor was surprised and actually happy to struck such a deal that day.

After a month that man sold the Emerald for over 11 million dollars. That money could have been made by the doctor, but it didn’t work for him. Why? Only because he did not have any value for what he owned.

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Us and that doctor are so much alike. Often we do not understand the value of the character or talents that we possess and inspite of being owner of such valuable treasures we try to find happiness outside in materialistic pleasure. It is us who do not spend time and efforts to search the inside of ourselves to discover what potential we may have.

Arabs were poor before they figured out that there is a big load of treasure right under their feet – the oil. Once they found it look how rich they are now.

Same is this cartoon here, Speedy thinking he lost the map to get to the mountain while its right there sticking on his shell where he can’t see.

All of us are filled with such treasures. Think hard, try harder to look inside what good qualities you are filled with and use them for your benefit.

That’s the beauty of life – We spend whole life looking for something which is often found right under our feet. 

Have a good day. Thank you for reading.

Chameleon Theory

A chameleon has an ability to change its color and blend into the surrounding. Human body does not have that ability of course. But, what we do have is our will that we have a control over.

Chameleon theory talks about being adjustable to your surrounding. The reason I called it Chameleon theory is because this characteristic is found in that certain reptile. It changes its color to fit in(mostly for protection). Take a pause and think how powerful and witty nature can get. Every creature gifted with different abilities. Simply amazing.

What we can learn from chameleon theory is to blend in to the surrounding no matter where we are. What makes us sad is not having things our way around us. But only if we try to accommodate to our surrounding by changing ourselves a little there is no room for sadness or disappointment left.

Look at Speedy Sparks here, blending into the surrounding. If you are familiar to Speedy Sparks (my blog mascot) looking at previous articles n drawings; you will find him here in this picture on a race track with his greenish red spotted shell with racing stripes (that’s just his birth marks).

(okay fine, its not the greatest or perfect example but it was a funny idea I had so here it is another cartoon of the day…ha ha…).

Easy enough to figure it out now that it is mostly us who attract and cause most of our disappointments. Only if we learn to adjust and be happy in the moment; into the place we are at, there is no way we can be unhappy.

Lesson learned from a chameleon without using any mean of communication and just by observation. Open your eyes and understand the values of what surrounds us, something on these lines is my tomorrows article about – owner of the emerald.

Have a great Monday and remember to practice “adjusting” today. Try it for a day and see if it works for you.

Lessons in Movies – 1 (running after your passion – spoiler alert)

So this is only the first article under the topic of “Lessons in Movies” and there are going to be a few more.

These articles may contain “Spoiler Alert“, although I will do my best to keep the secret the way it should be – interesting and for you to find out.

Today’s movie pick (as I mentioned in yesterday’s blog is “The Big Year“).

Currently I am writing an e-book and there is a chapter in that book about “getting in touch with nature”. I must admit I found the most amazing way in this movie – The big year, to get in touch with nature. It is about birding.

Speedy Sparks birding on a day off

The story is about few passionate birders (people who like spotting different species of birds). These birders don’t describe birding as a hobby but they define it as a passion. That will remind you that every one of us has different passion. I am sure you are passionate about something in particular.

Now, there are three main characters played in this movie by “Steve Martin, Jack Black and Owen Wilson“. There is a birder with a world record and he is trying to break his own record this year (in the story). There are other 2 main characters who are his competition. All three of them carries same passion for birding.

But they all are making different sacrifices and they all are prioritizing different things in their lives. That reminds me of some of us, who may put Passion first in life while others will make sure their passion do not cause any damage in other part of life. That is the lesson in this movie.

You will see a journey of these 3 competitors across america and other parts of the world just for spotting a bird. But these characters have different situations in their life and different challenges. This movie will teach you exactly by the end that how your passion can effect positively or negatively to your life.

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You see we all grow up doing different things; making different choices; loving something more than the other in our lives. But, at the end what matters is “your inner happiness and satisfaction” with the choices you made. 

This realization was the best moment in the movie. I must say you gotta watch it. Sometimes, not only the journey counts but it is also the ending or what some of us call the destination. Same quote I put down in the beginning of a chapter in my fictional book (as much as I love bragging about it, I confess I have hit a huge block in that fictional story which I haven’t managed to overcome in past month now. So, for now only moving on with my e-book. Thank God at least something is going on).

So, watch this movie and see if you find it interesting. I watched it just because the cast and crew sounded very interesting to me and at the end of the movie I felt I got away with more than just the entertainment.

You can make a difference even at -273C

Hey, so here is an interesting image I created to explain what would Speedy Sparks feel in different temperatures. He is just super awesome, so just flow with me and see where I am going with this okay.

Now, above you see is how well Speedy Sparks will survive in different temperature zones. He is doing fine even at 2C. He would be freezing to almost inactive at -100C and at -273C even he is nothing.

-273C = 0 K. Yes it is zero Kelvin temperature. Lord William Thomas Kelvin came up with this unit of measure in 1848. Don’t get bored yet, it gets better. Past 2 days I had been busy doing research on the internet; trying to find out all I can about absolute zero condition explained by Lord Kelvin. He came up with Kelvin as a measuring unit of temperature to measure extreme heat or cold.

Now, my question to you is if at 0 K that is -273C nothing can exist (even different gases in the air freezes by -222C), do you think Lord Kelvin went there personally to measure it and prove it. No, absolutely not. But, everyone believes his calculations; his experiments and world wide in the field of Science this Kelvin measure is used.

What I want you now to do is ask yourself a question, can you make any difference in the world? Well, Lord Kelvin came up with a revolutionary helpful measuring unit of temperature, why can’t we do something small or something new? Verbally, he made a difference at -273C; don’t you think we can do much better at a room temperature we are mostly surrounded with?

The beauty of this is he did lots of other things but there are million of other things that he did not invent. It was always a different person behind different inventions. I am not asking you to invent some materialistic thing to help mankind. All I am asking you is to believe in what I am saying and most of all believe in yourself that you can make a little difference around you and make this world a better place if you think a little extra. Just come up with some positive thought and pass it on, that would be a greatest invention we can use these days.

That’s all man, its that simple.

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Hope you enjoyed reading this and hope I made some sense. I was trying to keep my thoughts as clear as possible in order to explain what I want to say. Hope I could get it to you. Tomorrow gets better. I watched this movie called “the big year” last night starring – Steve Martin, Jack Black and Owen Wilson. Will talk about that movie here tomorrow. Just in case if it interests you and possible for you please watch that movie once today if you can.

Thank you for your precious time. I have a feeling I will be able to be lot more creative with the help of Speedy Sparks.

Cheers.

Speedy Sparks is here. Now!

VICTOR :

Hi, I am Victor. You may remember me from the article about “glass theory”, about the glass being half full and half empty. Well, agreed I kinda dressed up a bit nerdy in that one. You gotta do weird things for money these days man, we all agree to that don’t we? Ha ha….. so, guess what happened few days back. It was around 2 in the morning I heard someone knocking on my door. As I approached the door to open, I heard someone running away. Finally, when I opened the door I found this guy – Speedy. Well, it’s a snail but a pretty strong one.

I kinda stepped on him as I walked out of the door, didn’t crush him to my surprise. Uhh, let’s not talk about that. When I found speedy he was having a little red bow tied around with a note sticking on it (it was actually sticking on him somewhere else that I do not want to talk about). The note said, “This is Speedy Sparks. He is the only hope. Take good care of him.” I thought it was funny for a snail being named “Speedy”. Ironic right?

Pretty shy guy he was when I saw him first. Didn’t want to come out of its shell, but we ended up getting friendly after all. He is pretty cool actually. Although he is so slow made me late to work on Monday. That is because I took him to the park playing “Fetch” on Sunday. Poor thing didn’t make it back till next morning, hahaha. Anyways, I am going to bed. Nightey night.

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SPEEDY SPARKS :

They call me Speedy Sparks…….Why?

I am the fastest snail on this planet.

I worked hard because I wanted to prove the world wrong, that believes Snails cannot be speedy.

I was born with those racing stripes on my back.

My name “Speedy Sparks” is the proof that with enough inspiration and believing in yourself you can do anything and you can be anyone you wish to be. I must tell you it is a challenge being Speedy when you are a snail. But hey, little challenge never hurts.

I have the spark within, and it is my job to spread the light ahead and further. Anyone lacking that spark gets a good one from me.

Are you comfortable in your own shell. Because I am. And If you tell my master about my secret, I am going to cut your head off.

I am Speedy Sparks, and this is my secret identity that my master is not aware of.

He himself is being pretty demotivated often and that is why I am here to inspire him.

To remind him that hope is alive, and with enough of inspiration that is going to go further.

so back to same question, “Are you comfortable in your own shell?”

My friend you can never convince the world totally no matter how much you change yourself from outside. In fact it will only lead you changing yourself from within before you even know it, and soon you will not be “YOU” anymore.

The best way to go with it is, being comfortable in your own shell….uhh, I mean in your own skin. So, keep it that way. I must go for now.

Peace out!

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Ladies and gentlemen I hope you enjoyed reading today’s article and most of all I hope “Speedy Sparks” is entertaining enough as a blog mascot. Please leave your feedback or suggesstion. That would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for bearing me around here, and still following me faithfully. Love you all. Thank you for all your likes that inspires me to come up with interesting inspiring stories you will be reading ahead.

Thank you thank you thank you. 

Like or Dislike, Just say it.

This happened long ago. I was invited to a dinner at my friend’s house. There were few things on the menu of different cuisines. What I did not like was the cheese dip they made. It just tasted a bit funny. His father did all the cooking and his mum was the one to serve everyone’s plate and I was down to try everything they had to offer me.

After I tried the 3 cheese dip that kinda tasted funny, I was thinking to leave it as it is. But then I thought he(my friend’s father) may feel that I am judging his cooking, by saying I did not like it or it tastes actually funny. So, my brain came up with a plan to kill that 3 cheese dip first and then go ahead to the rest of the better tasting stuff to make my mouth happier.

Now, as soon as I finished that funny tasting 3 cheese dip his father jumped by my seat with a bowl of the dip and served me even more saying, “I see you love it.”

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Now, don’t do this at dinner parties you are invited to. But the lesson I learned out of this was before it’s too late you must say what you like or you don’t. I remembered this whole incident last night when I was working out at the gym.

This girl who works at the child care/baby sitting department in the gym she was working out next to me. A trainer(he is sorta weird if I must say it clearly) was passing by and saw her, started talking to her and kinda insisting on trying some this and that workout. She looked like she wanted to pass and didn’t want to do it, but finally she gives in. It looked like she was not liking it a bit every time he touches her here and there.

As soon as he leaves after a long chat and less training given, this girl looks at me and says, “Oh my god, he is so weird and pushy. I really don’t like coming up here when these trainers are around.” All I could do is smile, didn’t say anything.

But this was the incident in the gym last night that reminded me of a story with 3 cheese dip and reminded me the lesson,

“If you do not like something do not give in, sometimes it is rather wise to say NO out loud.”

“If you give in easily, you will be forced to do things you do not like and life is too short to waste time doing things you do not want to do.” 

WARNING : Do not say “you don’t like something”, at a dinner party where you are a guest. That is not polite. This rule does not apply there. Just saying. 

And you are very close to meet speedy sparks. Thank you for reading, following and hanging on till now.

Love you mucho.