Put family first

About 1500 school kids in America were asked in 2011, “what is it that makes a happy family?” Out of 1500 kids there was not a single one who said, “Money”. Instead most of them said “Warm Love”.

It was that easy to figure out for an innocent kid. Then why does it take us so long to figure it out?

I have seen people working really hard. They spend day and night after work. Almost like they are not working to live, they are living to work. But when you ask them why so much work you do? Mostly the answer is, “so that I can keep my family happy; I can buy stuff for my wife and kids; send my kids to better University.” or in some cases you hear that, “I want to buy a house or a store or a factory. Then I can keep my family happier. If I do not work hard where I will get the money from?”

Both examples above are real surveys that has been done in 2011.

Now, compare the answers that kids gave and what adults gave. Are kids asking for things or money? All they are asking for is “Warm Love”. Why adults/parents are working hard? So, that they can get more money and give their kids better future.

Now, ask yourself what is more important to you? Building a character of your son or daughter OR Having enough money to be able to send them to Yale; buy them expensive gifts on Christmas. Sure, they would love it. Even at the age of 27 I would also love to have someone giving me a hot-wheels car on Christmas.

The real question is, “what is more important ?” Gathering enough money or being there with the kids to have them feel that you are there. It is very important to spend time with your family.

I had stressed on the example of kids; because once again I have no hesitation repeating that “Kids are the future responsible citizens of this country”. As responsible citizens they will be holding the key to the future. I have mentioned this in 2 or 3 of my blogs before. I will not stop stressing on this same issue that the world is challenged with.

Besides the example of kids the above theory applies to anyone and every one in the family. You have to be sure that every one feels loved the way they deserve to, for whatever role they are playing in your family. Each member is important.

  • If it was not for your father or mother “YOU” will not be here. That “YOU-ness” that you are always so cocky about wouldn’t even exist today, if it was not for your parents. When you were scared as a kid it was them who hold you in their arms and said, “You are safe here with me”.
  • It was the woman you are married to who once said “YES” to you while you were on your knees feeling helpless because if this is not it you are doomed.
  • It was the man of your house that once comforted you in his arms saying, “I am here, I will make sure everything is going to be okay”.

Please value your family. I planned to publish this article especially on Friday so that all of you reading this can realize if you had been lacking in your efforts to put in your family and have the weekend to improvise. Get the family united.

Some monks especially insist on “family time” once or twice a week. Get everyone together; play a board game; do a movie night; have a talk to address everyone facing the problem in the house and find answers together that works for every one’s best.

Put Family First. Starting from now – this very moment!!! Have a lovely weekend.


Perfect Day

So, I am thinking I better start making the flow of my blog writing consistent. This week, if I remember correctly this is the 3rd consecutive day of me writing a blog. I still feel of having no pattern of publishing blogs. For now it looks like on a daily basis, but I have no assurance in my own head of doing that. Temporarily I have hit a writer’s block and not able to move forward with my book. I am stuck at chapter 6 where the protagonist is in Arizona, has no communication lately with the kid he is sponsoring in Africa. The protagonist is working with professional chefs who not only has cooking but life lessons to teach him as well. Now, being off from my work where I cook, then being scared of the writer’s block and not being able to make use of my day off for bringing that book to “the end” is my perfect day? I think not. 


What is your perfect day? What does it even mean to have a perfect day? How does it come to you? Does it knock on your door when you wake up? or a night before does it leave you a wall post on your facebook account saying, “Long time no C, I’ma catchup wichya 2moro.” ? 

Does a perfect day means no rain but sunshine; no cold but warmth; no tears but laughter ? What can be a perfect day really? Why do we think of a perfect day? Why do we seek a perfect day? Is it something we plan to have and make it happen? Is it something we realize after we are done experiencing it? Well, that sounds more like it. 

So many thoughts you can put into “perfect day”. Do you ever feel that, may b it is just our perception? Can’t we have a perfect day everyday? I think we can. How? Well, if you think its just a perception, it should be easy just by changing your perception from something more positive, right?


I think the perfect day is when we have learned and a lot about pleasing ourselves and have managed to do it effectively. It could be playing video games; having sex 5 times; going out in the sun. We all have different definitions of having a perfect day on hand. Doesn’t that make it very clear that it is just about perception? Sometimes after spending a very lazy day we realize we have nothing got done and the day just passed by you swiftly. And then comes the regretting part to make sure we do not have a perfect night either. 

Sometimes it is good to be lazy, sometimes it is good to have got a lot done. You may have plan with your life or your day, but the universe may already have a plan for you. You must have experienced starting your day full of nervousness and laziness and feeling “blah” as some of us like to call it and then by the end of it finding yourself as happy as a hungry panda set free in a jungle full of bamboos. In that situation you did not plan a perfect day, you only made plans to have yourself a day full of finding secured corner and saving yourself from those nerve wrecking projects and presentations. All you have to do is have a bit more of adventurous perception and be ready to ride that roller coaster for amusement of your own.


If keeping ourselves happy and confident is our perfect day, let us turn every single day into our perfect day. Say no to fear, say yes to adventure. Say yes, in order to experience the worst to build yourself stronger. The sooner we get over all those negative thoughts or feelings, the better deal we get away with scoring more of perfect days. Stay positive, stay put. Nothing is going to go WRONG. Take your work as part of your routine. Consider every bad or challenging experience as an opportunity to grow yourself wiser and stronger. Remove the word “Bad day” from your dictionary. Say yes to a “Perfect Day”.

Only you have to answer yourself at the end of the day, you don’t need to answer anyone else. Did you spend your day happily? Did you learn something new? Did you make others around you happy? Did you make any difference? Make this questions answered in YES for real and you have a Perfect day. 

If you manage to do it everyday, your each day from now is guaranteed to be your “perfect day”.